Transformative Couples Therapy™
(formerly AEDP for Couples)
Transformative Couples Therapy™ (TCT) helps therapists evoke and amplify the power of the felt experience of love in the couples they treat.
This method mobilizes couple members to shift patterns of insecurity and develop a more durable secure base. Forging a pathway from fear to love and from survival to thriving, is an expression of the indwelling biological drive to love and be loved.” ( Mars 2011).
To begin the process of transforming relationships, the clinician guides couple members to talk directly to each other from the first moments of the opening session.
For many couple therapists this is a stretch: “What if they start escalating?”
When therapists practice TCT methods they report finding the surprise that safe, authentic, and regulated interactions emerge within their sessions and between them as well.
This helps the couples break through stuckness and reactivity and evokes flexible trust and resilience which is new and much needed.
This way of engaging neuroplasticity prepares the therapist to help couples to shift away from patterns of hot and cold conflict and loneliness. They build new pathways of connection and healing.
Features of the TCT method:
A somatic-holding model based the Seven Channels of Experience.
Biological drives that mobilize healing, repair, love, and connection.
Life-changing first-session interventions: Couples learn that they can spontaneously find their own words to say what they really want with each other and let go of patterns of inflammatory criticism. They move from a hyper-focus on what is wrong, to discovering and expressing what they long for with each other.
When The Going Gets Rough
Forging resilient connections during periods of hot and cold conflict.
Opening somatic awareness through seven channels of experience as an alternative to judging and projecting.
When Triggered: Whose Face Do You See Behind His or Her Face?
Transforming patterns of reactivity and brittleness.
Illuminating, repairing and re-wiring self-protective adaptations through healing unresolved trauma and deprivation.
Stabilizing and Fortifying Change Toward the End of Treatment
When change happens and old patterns reassert themselves, we anticipate these bumps in the road, slow down, and facilitate healing repairs. This is similar to the process of tempering steel: we replace patterns of brittleness with more resilient earned secure attachment: Transforging® the experience.
The final phase of treatment involves couple members mindfully practicing the skillful means they have developed with each other during treatment. The patterns of attunement, disruption and repair become the new normal. The end of treatment involves couples proudly reporting and fine-tuning their accomplishments.
In this video conversation with Serge Prengel, David Mars Ph.D. gives us an experiential sense of this model of Transformational Couple Treatment.
PAST ARTICLES ABOUT DR. MARS' COUPLE TREATMENT METHOD
FROM THE THERAPIST MAGAZINE OF THE CALIFORNIA ASSOCIATION OF MARRIAGE & FAMILY THERAPISTS (CAMFT)
What is Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy for Couples?
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CAMFT Article 2 - 2018
AEDPfC - Building Whole
CAMFT Article 3 - 2018
The Felt Experience of Love is the Healing Force Tapped by AEDPfC
From Stuckness and Reactivity to the Felt Experience of Love
By David Mars, MFT, PhD