AEDP for Couples Hybrid Course:
Immersion + Essential Skills
Boston Area – April 2018
Retreat Style 5-Day Course April 23 - 27, 2018
A true 5 Day retreat.
Immerse yourself in an intensive learning experience of the unique AEDP for Couples method in a community setting.
The self of the therapist is transformed. (Testimonial)
“Because of AEDP and AEDP for Couples, the way that I work has been deeply transformed. My couples are experiencing healing in a more accelerated way along with a more grounded felt sense between them of feeling more deeply connected and in love with each other. Love indeed does feel good!”
--Tami Chelew, LMFT AEDP San Diego
This AEDPfC training works to expand the capacity of therapists to access somatic awareness that goes beyond the therapist’s internal working model of participating therapists. We work in experiential groups of 4 in which 2 of the members take turns in being becoming a role-play a couple that the therapist in training practices with. The fourth member functions as a slinet witness practicing moment-to-moment somatic tracking. Each small group has its own highly trained assistant who is dedicated to holding a container of safety and the structure of the AEDP for Couples model of accelerated learning.
This training model is revolutionary. In the 5 days of the intensive retreat all communication in our training hours is the same method as used in AEDPfC treatment with actual couples. And with the opportunity to be resident in affordable Walker Center, where the training will take place, participants have the option to continue to practice awareness with each other while hanging out over meals, in the evenings, and while exploring the Boston and surrounding area with their experiential group or others twith whom they generate and natural affinity.
So, regardless of your background, this course equips you to deeply learn, through experiencing it, the AEDPfC model. This method features somatic tracking and affective neuroscience attachment research-guided keys to effective and accelerated treatment.
This is not an intellectual approach. The training language used each day departs from social speech that involves an intellectual and judgmental focus and shifts to a somatic expression of experience, which increases the felt experience of safety to learn new ways to be a therapist. The brain science and psychophysiology fact-base of the teaching segments deeply inform the work and brings an understanding of why affirmative experiences within safe relational context changes the brain for the better both in AEDPfC therapy and in the training.
By becoming a couple member on a rotating basis within your experiential
group, your own push points of reactivity that can come up in treatment are softened and attended to.
As the role play therapist you have the experience of breakthrough by applying methods that are somatically attuned, fresh and new. Your confidence to practice in more relational, attuned, compassionate and expanded ways grows through witnessing first hand the power of your core authentic capacities.
Your core self at best gets the experience of being seen and known each day
of the retreat through giving and receiving the kind of attunement and care
you want to demonstrate with more stability in your clinical practice.
This translates to your home life and your relationships including those with children. Once your defense shield that you have learned is softened though immersion in the AEDPfC method your core self as a couple therapist emerges naturally and instinctively.
This course also offers you the opportunity to explore greater Boston and New England in the weekends on either side on either side of the training from an affordable home base at the Walker Center.
This AEDP for Couples Hybrid course is designed to welcome both returning participants from the celebrated 2016 Hybrid Course as well as new participants. This is a gateway course if you practice EFT or PACT or any other approach to treating couples. In this 2017 Hybrid Course there will be new didactic and all new videotaped clinical material. This Hybrid Course fulfills requirements towards certification in AEDP and AEDP for Couples.
This new AEDP for Couples course is a five-day, retreat style course that is a hybrid of our “traditional” Immersion and Essential Skills courses. This intensive course is designed to introduce this method that often leads to rapid transformation of the internal working model of couples. The skill sets necessary to practice AEDP for Couples will be introduced with theoretical foundations and videotape illustrations in the morning, followed by group experiential exercises to apply each afternoon.
AEDP for Couples harnesses powerful biological drives to heal called transformance strivings. The method, guided by the AEDP model, incorporates attachment research and Polyvagal theory. It creates a somatic holding of each of the couple members through the Seven Channels of Experience: Sensation, Emotion, Energetic, Movement, Auditory, Visual and Imaginal. From a place somatically attuned safety, new experiences of love – and the longing to be loved – emerge and guide both the therapist and the couple though a transformative process.
In addition to presenting the theory and practice of AEDP for Couples this course will provide experiential exercises with advanced practitioners in small subgroups. The assistants, plus David and Karen will guide participants to learn how to better somatically track and affectively regulate two people at a time in the practice of applying the AEDP for Couples model. Our goal is to equip therapists to effectively treat couples with greater confidence, enjoyment and ease.
Course Objectives: Participants will learn how to
Distinguish the four states of AEDP in couple treatment
Identify three ways to reduce defenses to build an atmosphere of safety
Detect and follow the healthiest aspects of each couple member
Demonstrate skills to regulate emotional reactivity in each couple members
Tailor treatment interventions to the attachment strategy of each of the couple members
Further Objectives: By the end of this program participants will be able to:
Recognize and facilitate the AEDP Four State model of transformation in the context of couple treatment.
Navigate defenses, anger and anxiety to build an atmosphere for sharing regulated affective experiences in couple treatment.
Detect and follow transformance drives and selectively amplify positive affective experiences between the couple members.
Expand each partner’s receptive affective capacity.
Broaden the window of affect tolerance by addressing both deactivating (avoidant) and hyperactivating (anxious/ambivalent) attachment strategies.
Recognize and regulate the early signs of dorsal vagal response (Porges’ Polyvagal Theory) and dissociation related to unresolved trauma.
Help each couple member process emotional experience to completion in the presence of and accompanied by his or her partner.
Facilitate a range of healing portrayals to treat the trauma that underlies the stuckness and reactivity in each couples’ patterning.
Metaprocess change moments through all Seven Channels of Experience (Mars) to help transform each couple member’s internal working model to integrate and stabilize gains.
The clinical video featured each day will include heterosexual and same-sex couples in treatment for the following:
Chronic Dissociation and Distancing
Sexual abuse and neglect
Hot and Cold Conflict including the threat of divorce
Meet the Trainers:
David Mars, M.F.T., Ph.D.
David Mars, Ph.D. is the developer of AEDP For Couples. He has specialized in the somatically focused treatment of couples and groups for four decades, as an innovator in developing process-oriented, somatically, and empathically focused couple treatment. David has trained, supervised and consulted with Dr. Diana Fosha, the originator of AEDP since 2005.
David develops and presents training seminars and workshops nationally and internationally that focus on the AEDP for Couples model. He is the lead supervisor of the AEDP for Couples Core Training. He teaches at AEDP Immersion Courses, the Essential Skills Program and leads two ongoing AEDP for Couples supervision groups. He is one of the founders of AEDP West. David is also on the adjunct faculty of the California Institute for Integral Studies in San Francisco where he infused AEDP into his teaching of courses on the Clinical Relationship.
David’s style as a presenter is described as inspiring, warm and deeply personable. He quickly evokes trust from his audiences, which ushers in a deep level of transparent exchange of ideas and points of view about how therapists can more effectively treat the historical trauma and deprivation that underlies marital dysfunction. Perhaps most importantly, participants are moved to apply what they learn in these training programs, due to the depth of experience they take in while witnessing videos, live demonstrations and engaging in experiential practices.
Karen Pando-Mars, MFT
Karen Pando-Mars, MFT, is a licensed psychotherapist in San Rafael, California. She was irresistibly drawn to AEDP in 2005 and captivated by the depth and breadth of its transformational model. She immersed herself in training and consultation with Dr. Fosha and three years of core training with Dr. Frederick. Ms. Pando-Mars is one of the founders of AEDP West, Co-Director of the Center for Transformative Therapies in San Rafael, and currently is a supervisor for the Bay Area Core Training. She presents AEDP trainings around the San Francisco Bay Area and offers individual and small group supervision to psychotherapists. She is known for her warmth and approachability, and her ability to create safety in the supervisory relationship. Ms. PandoMars' long-time interest in deepening connection between self and other has been grounded through AEDP's precise tracking of attachment principles and related neuroscience, and this influence is woven throughout her work with individuals, couples and groups. Licensed since 1989, her background in somatic and experiential therapies includes Focusing, Process-Oriented Psychotherapy, Sandtray, EMDR, and Authentic Movement. She was a founder of The Sandtray Network and a contributing editor of its journal. As adjunct faculty at Dominican University, in San Rafael, California, she taught AEDP as the overarching theoretical model in her Alternative and Innovative Psychotherapies course.